Ever been to a gender clinic? They are awesome! — I’d never heard the term ‘gender clinic’ till about 10 years ago. Now that I have more than the average of trans and gender non-conforming folks in my nuclear family — I find myself frequenting the gender clinic more than most average cis lesbians. What is average though, anymore? I…

Yesterday I hung out with a friend I haven’t seen since we graduated from veterinary school in 2003. We were a hilarious pair twenty-some years ago. The year before entering (The University of Pennsylvania) Penn’s veterinary school, J and I met while working in a parasitology laboratory at the vet…

On permanent, the word, and permanency. My first experience with the word permanent was when my grandmother sat me in a kitchen chair and gave me a home-perm. She used the whole word though. She gave me a permanent. All three syllables — clap it out: Perm <clap>. A <clap>. Nent <clap>. We all know them…

How did we get here? How did I get here? — We’ve all just been through some stuff. The same, but different, for everyone, everywhere. Right? It was Covid19, in case you missed it. Here we are now. All reemerging at our own paces. Some folks never went dark. They appeared unphased by the pandemic — maybe we just don’t know…

How to identify gay teeth in the wild. What are Gay Teeth? Gay Teeth — is a specific pattern of dentition appears overrepresented in queer folks. I don’t think that everyone queer has gay teeth, but I do think that everyone with gay teeth could be on the queerer side of the scale. I…

Part 2. There’s a lot that can’t be told — I’ll try anyway. The familiar narrative of adoption is both antiquated and false. It’s a romantic notion that you can simply pluck children from wherever and plop them with other self identified adult(s), and expect a family deeply rooted in love and respect to spontaneously form. It’s a labor of…

Trans folks are everywhere. You just don’t know it. I mean, it’s true. Storytime My ex-spouse, who is a queer, brown, gender non-conforming person, worked with a straight white male who was a complete pain in their ass. …

How much money teetotaling has saved me so far. — I stopped drinking alcohol 5 years, 3 months and 2 days ago. That’s 1920 days ago. I tracked my early sobriety — which eventually turned into just regular sobriety. Because I’d done a few dry and sober-curious weeks and months and tracked those prior to actually quit-quitting — I already…

Not that long ago I felt deceased on the inside, and wished to be deceased on the outside. Matchy matchy. A buuuuunch of shit has happened since then. From where I sit now almost everything looks different. I was finally forced to take time off from working. With time, the…